Wednesday has turned into Friday.

I am happy to announce that my work week has come to an end today. I worked extra hours Tuesday and I worked today (which I normally don't) so, I get to take the rest of the week off. Yay!

So, have you ever realized how hard it is to compromise with someone?

Jade & I have been throwing the idea out about moving for a while now. I have mixed feelings on this. Part of me wants to move, get into a different house yada yada. The other part of me is trying to not let me forget how I dislike change and that we have done so much to this house that I would hate to leave it in someone elses hands. I mean if we moved would they take care of my pond? Would they leave my plush and pretty new carpet stain free? These are the things I think about. I would feel compelled to dig up my jap. maple because I know that I take care of it or the three trees we have planted in honor of loved ones who have passed? Reyna was brought to this house for the first time. So, I do want more space, but I also want to hold onto this house at the same time.

Jade & I never house hunted. We live in a house that his grandparents built. When his grandma went into a home, Jade decided to purchase the house. We have a great size yard, the house is 2000 square feet. I would like to change a few things, but other than that, I am pretty happy.

Here's the dilemma.....

Jade is about as country as they come. Me? I would be happy in a good sized house with a backyard big enough to play in, somewhere close and convenient to town. I don't want to live way out like we do now. Well, Jade found a house. It's not out in the middle of nowhere but, it's not in a neighborhood. I would prefer to live in a neighborhood. The house is nearby my parents and very close to his. We would have the conveneince of our family being closeby. The house is on 10 acres, has a pool, a big pole barn for all of his crap, finished walk out basement, four bedrooms. He is completely sold. I'm not.

Part of me is saying, "yep it's time to move." The other part is saying, "why would you get rid of your tiny mortgage and assume a lot more land and work to go along with it." Am I being crazy? I have told Jade that we have trouble finding time to take care of the lawn we have. How are we going to find time to take care of ten acres? Where is Reyna supposed to ride her bike, make friends, set up a lemonade stand?

I am definitely not wanting Jade to move downtown, (or as he would say a pile of concrete) but I definitely want to come to some sort of compromise. I am not sure where to start. Maybe we'll just stay right where we are for a while.   

Comments

[Leslie Collins]

I think you could get a get a goat a sheep a horse and a cow to keep the yard mowed. Reyna wouldnt need a bike she could ride her horse. People have lived in the country longer than there have been neighborhoods so the country people do have friends. Besides with a pool that could be a friend magnate. And she will make friends at school and 4h. I think you should give it some thought. Dad

[amy]

Best of luck with your decision.

[gina]

We just had this very battle. We have about 1800 square feet and when we found about about the new baby I immediately freaked and was like WE NEED TO MOVE. Like yesterday. So we started looking. But what we found is that it is HARD to walk away from something you've put five years of energy and memories into and start all over. I cry just thinking about moving out which prompted us to decide to stay. At least until we're sure we're ready. Good luck and keep us posted!

[LeeAnn Howard]

It this the house in Concord? I just seen it last night on realtor.com and thought of it being the one. I would love 10 acres of land, but I would also love being in a nice neighborhood and having neighbors and friends for Lukas to grow up with. Its a very hard decision. Both Tony and I lived with growing up with neighborhood kids and think that we want the same for Lukas. But we also are eyeing a house in GrassLake that has 10 acres of land. (how funny!), and it sounds like a steal as well! -wait I hope thats not the one your eyeing.. LOL!! if it is, thats okay.. we are in no position to move until ours sells! :) Good Luck!

[Julie Fischer]

Wow, big decision. I know how you feel about feeling connected to your house now. We have playfully thrown around the idea of selling our house (you know, the one that's still not finished?) and it's really hard to think about all the time, effort, tears, struggles, memories and everything else that we've put into it. So....I feel for you. I can't tell you what to do, but I hope that whatever you decide, you are happy and don't regret anything!

[Gramps Salazar]

What about making a bid on Christofferson's house. That would be a nice home for all of you. If it doesn't work out you can always move later on...
just a suggestion......

see you

[Granna]

Les, Try and not hold material things too close to your heart. You, Jade and Reyna are family and home, not your house or things you put into it. Whatever you two decide will be the RIGHT move.
Love, Granna

[Aunt Janette]

Change is always good. That is what life is about. New Adventures. If you don't have changes, life can get boring.

I was sad when Granna and Grandpa sold our childhood home in Westland. But the memories will stay with you for the rest of your lives.

Reyna and her siblings may one day graduate from the same school you and Jade did. Wouldn't that be something?

A house is not a home until you make it your own.

[jenny]

i know what you feel about being attached to your house. that's the way i feel about where we are now, but i know someday we will either have to add on or move.

people make memories and where you make them is only logistics. if you moved, you could always plant new trees in honor of your loved ones - and you could probably have a bigger pond! :)

good luck figuring it out!